how to tell if a guy really likes you…
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[/media-credit]I read an interesting blog post recently that addressed this issue:
http://www.simonegrant.com/blog/2012/05/01/how-to-tell-if-a-guy-really-likes-you/
The blogger is of the opinion that the best way to gauge a man’s real interest was to sleep with the guy; then see how he treated you. If he treated you well after sex, he was very into you. If not, he wasn’t. At first, the blogger seemed to be joking about his assertion. But later on he indicated this test was, in fact, a good gauge of interest.
I found this notion to be thoroughly blasphemous… essentially suggesting that girls pimp themselves out to see if a dude is interested?!?
Common now. If you really need to know, can’t glean any clues, and the suspense is killing you… why don’t you just ask the guy??
An acquaintance of mine suggested that you would know how interested a guy was by the frequency of his correspondence. But I believe that this is a flawed thesis. Many men, myself included, will actually hold back if they are very interested in a woman; corresponding infrequently for fear of rejection. This is common, so I believe that simply asking where you stand makes perfect sense.
If you are afraid the guy might lie about his true feelings towards you, ask him anyway. Better to reveal a liar as early as possible.
If he tells you he likes you, his actions should back it up. If he tells you he likes you and treats you like shit, get out. He’s a liar. Get to the point, find out the truth, keep moving.
I do believe honesty is the fundamental basis for any meaningful relationship.
As such, it is highly beneficial to start the relationship in an honest fashion.
It will ultimately lead to more rewarding relationships and a more satisfying existence.
Yours truly, Josh Berkowitz
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